The only way to attain honesty in our lives, is to not only be honest with those who are honest with us, but also with those who are not. Honesty is one of the pillars of life, and society for that matter, and like I said in the title, it should be the first chapter of our lives. I'd like to think that honesty, in the long run, is always the best policy. I know we always feel like we can get by with a few lies here and there, white lies if you will, because it is simply easier; or maybe we just don't want to hurt anyone. I know I've done it and continue to do it. But honesty is always the best policy. I try to think that I would do more harm to someone by my falseness of trying not to hurt them, than by the honesty of trying to hurt them. It is hard to get this concept through our heads, because after all, it is somewhat of a paradox, it doesn't really make sense or is rational. How can we possibly be doing better unto someone by trying to hurt them? I think back to my case, and I think it would have been much easier on me to know the truth and all the truth upfront. Yes, it would have hurt, a whole lot. But honesty brings clarity and clarity gives you peace of mind and peace of heart. I think a lot of times we try to convince ourselves that our dishonesty is justified because we are trying to protect someone, not hurt them. But why do we feel that we are entitled to decide, for someone else, what is better for them. Honesty will always be the best policy. Honesty is the foundation of our lives, it is what gives us tranquility and cleanliness of heart, a clean conscience, things that bring happiness to life.
But to be honest with you, often times honesty hurts, a lot. But I feel that I can respect those people, those people who are honest with me. And that is simply because I know that if they can tell me those hard things, those things that they know will hurt me, but they also know I need to hear, then I will always know that they have my best interest at heart. Good friends and family are those people who feel they can be blatantly honest with you because they need to, and you will appreciate it. Think about these three words: honesty, respect and loyally. These are three words that in my opinion should always go together. How could you have one in your life without the others? If you respect someone, then you should be loyal to that person and be honest with that person, right? I think with respect comes honesty, and for the longest time I felt disrespected. I felt disrespected that the person who I thought was closest to me, didn't feel as if she could be honest with me. How can you build a relationship, in life and in business, without honesty. It would be like trying to build a house on quick sand, it'll eventually sink and fall apart.
We need to remember that the truth matters, always has and always will, that we don't play by our own rules in life and we don't decide for others; we don't take shortcuts because they are easier and that all we achieve needs to be achieved by us. I've talked about a clean conscience and you can think of your conscience as a measure of your honesty, or selfishness. Love in it of itself requires a clean conscience, and honesty. A way to look at it is that honesty will not always bring a response of love, but it is definitely essential to love.
The goodness of people relies on character - purity, honesty, loyalty, respect, moral courage, if you will. But above all this is relies on how we treat others. Honesty gives people the freedom to be themselves, to talk about things they wouldn't otherwise. Honesty promotes an environment of cleanliness and peace, of openness. Life comes down to honesty and doing what is right, not only for us, but for others. I truly believe in certain things in life. I believe in family, I believe in a good time, I believe in good food, I believe in people and the power they have to make a difference. I believe in intelligence over force and most of all I believe in the power of honesty.
But to be honest with you, often times honesty hurts, a lot. But I feel that I can respect those people, those people who are honest with me. And that is simply because I know that if they can tell me those hard things, those things that they know will hurt me, but they also know I need to hear, then I will always know that they have my best interest at heart. Good friends and family are those people who feel they can be blatantly honest with you because they need to, and you will appreciate it. Think about these three words: honesty, respect and loyally. These are three words that in my opinion should always go together. How could you have one in your life without the others? If you respect someone, then you should be loyal to that person and be honest with that person, right? I think with respect comes honesty, and for the longest time I felt disrespected. I felt disrespected that the person who I thought was closest to me, didn't feel as if she could be honest with me. How can you build a relationship, in life and in business, without honesty. It would be like trying to build a house on quick sand, it'll eventually sink and fall apart.
We need to remember that the truth matters, always has and always will, that we don't play by our own rules in life and we don't decide for others; we don't take shortcuts because they are easier and that all we achieve needs to be achieved by us. I've talked about a clean conscience and you can think of your conscience as a measure of your honesty, or selfishness. Love in it of itself requires a clean conscience, and honesty. A way to look at it is that honesty will not always bring a response of love, but it is definitely essential to love.
The goodness of people relies on character - purity, honesty, loyalty, respect, moral courage, if you will. But above all this is relies on how we treat others. Honesty gives people the freedom to be themselves, to talk about things they wouldn't otherwise. Honesty promotes an environment of cleanliness and peace, of openness. Life comes down to honesty and doing what is right, not only for us, but for others. I truly believe in certain things in life. I believe in family, I believe in a good time, I believe in good food, I believe in people and the power they have to make a difference. I believe in intelligence over force and most of all I believe in the power of honesty.
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