As funny as that sounds, and that is the whole point, we all know it is true! We've all had those days where a donut just sounds perfect, a hot donut, right off the line, bathed in icing! I know my wife and I have had many nights were we have made the midnight trip to Krispy Kreme, shameful, but awesome! I wanted to make you smile, to make you laugh, and I hope I succeeded!
I want to talk about laughter, and how laughter can bring a whole new perspective on life. During hard times, times like the one I am living right now, we sometimes forget to laugh. We are so preoccupied, thinking of the past, dealing with the present and worrying about the future, that we forget that life, and love, go on, and laughter is a big part of both. I have always been a person with a lively personality, so I've been told, laughing, joking. My wife and I always laughed together, joked together, had our inside jokes, things only we knew about, things that made us laugh. I guess when I think back to that, it makes it harder for me to understand what happened, why. That never stopped, we laughed all the time, until the end; well for now at least. We have always been a lively couple, at least I think so. I have so many memories, things I could write here, tell you about, things that made us laugh so hard; and still do. But there is no point in that, it would make no sense to you! I've always liked to think that a day without laughter is a day wasted, and I try to laugh, and make someone laugh, every day. I know sometimes I can be uptight, but life demands that from us as well, and just like with everything else in life, we need to find the right balance. Laughter is one of the greatest gifts of life, a gift from God, it keeps us joyous, gives us life. I'd like to think that through humor, you can soften some of the hardest blows life throws at you; and once you find laughter, no matter how painful your situation might be, you can get through it.
So why do we forget to laugh? Why are we so concerned with the problems, that pain, that we fail to see the bright side of life? I really don't know, but my best guess is simply that we are human, we feel, we hurt, we cry and we deal with pain in weird ways. Everyone handles tough situations differently, and I'd like to think that I have handled myself pretty well so far. I'm not going to lie, I've had terrible days, days where I cry, because I miss her so much, because I don't know what is to come. But I'd like to think that so far I have done things correctly. As you might have read already, I've had to ask my wife to do things that pained me a whole lot, but I thought they were necessary; no one wants to ever ask their wives for their wedding ring back, trust me. But one thing remains clear, that after all those things, asking her to take her clothes, for her ring back, etc..., I have always made it known that my love for her hasn't changed, yet, and I hope she thinks about that, remembers that. Does that make me naive? Who knows, I guess we'll see! But day after day, I continue to realize that life is not as bad as we make it out to be. Yes, it sucks at times, but we must keep going. And what better way to lift our spirits than with laughter. Let ourselves laugh, lighten up. Sounds easy to say, but trust me, it is horribly tough to do. I try to laugh, I really do, but there are times I can't bring myself to do it. I don't know if there is something inside me that just doesn't want to, or is my brain that preoccupied with pain and hurt, that it just doesn't know how to laugh anymore? Who knows and only time will help me heal, truly, inside. But in the meantime, can laughter help lessen my pain, make me feel better?
Not long ago I read that holding on to anger, resentment and hurt, only gives you tense muscles and a headache, makes the pain worse. Forgiveness, however, gives you back laughter and the lightness in your life. I wrote a few days ago that forgiveness is one of the greatest feelings we can have, it makes us stronger, better people; I still stand by that. There is really no reason to stay angry, nothing is gained from it. Anger only hurts us, no one else; spite does the same thing. I'll always believed that hope will always win over experience, that love is stronger than pain and that laughter is the only cure for grief. I am really trying to follow this, but it is so hard. It is so hard to write this tonight, as I sit here with a smile on my face, and then have to go to bed alone, not knowing if my wife is OK. But that is reality and I need to learn to make the best of it. Until I get an answer, I need to learn to deal with the pain and the reality of things. Laughter will help me and laughter, tonight, is what inspired me to write this; again, with a smile on my face! There are always things in life that make us smile, people, TV, nature, etc... and we need to appreciate them for what they do for us. Laughter is not something we share with a lot of people or a lot of things, it is a special bond we find with someone we love, our families, our favorite TV show, our pets. Laughter keeps us alive, it keeps us young and most of all it keeps us sane. I still love life in spite of all that stains it, all the evilness, all the hurt it has caused me; I love friendship, jokes and most of all, laughter.
I want to talk about laughter, and how laughter can bring a whole new perspective on life. During hard times, times like the one I am living right now, we sometimes forget to laugh. We are so preoccupied, thinking of the past, dealing with the present and worrying about the future, that we forget that life, and love, go on, and laughter is a big part of both. I have always been a person with a lively personality, so I've been told, laughing, joking. My wife and I always laughed together, joked together, had our inside jokes, things only we knew about, things that made us laugh. I guess when I think back to that, it makes it harder for me to understand what happened, why. That never stopped, we laughed all the time, until the end; well for now at least. We have always been a lively couple, at least I think so. I have so many memories, things I could write here, tell you about, things that made us laugh so hard; and still do. But there is no point in that, it would make no sense to you! I've always liked to think that a day without laughter is a day wasted, and I try to laugh, and make someone laugh, every day. I know sometimes I can be uptight, but life demands that from us as well, and just like with everything else in life, we need to find the right balance. Laughter is one of the greatest gifts of life, a gift from God, it keeps us joyous, gives us life. I'd like to think that through humor, you can soften some of the hardest blows life throws at you; and once you find laughter, no matter how painful your situation might be, you can get through it.
So why do we forget to laugh? Why are we so concerned with the problems, that pain, that we fail to see the bright side of life? I really don't know, but my best guess is simply that we are human, we feel, we hurt, we cry and we deal with pain in weird ways. Everyone handles tough situations differently, and I'd like to think that I have handled myself pretty well so far. I'm not going to lie, I've had terrible days, days where I cry, because I miss her so much, because I don't know what is to come. But I'd like to think that so far I have done things correctly. As you might have read already, I've had to ask my wife to do things that pained me a whole lot, but I thought they were necessary; no one wants to ever ask their wives for their wedding ring back, trust me. But one thing remains clear, that after all those things, asking her to take her clothes, for her ring back, etc..., I have always made it known that my love for her hasn't changed, yet, and I hope she thinks about that, remembers that. Does that make me naive? Who knows, I guess we'll see! But day after day, I continue to realize that life is not as bad as we make it out to be. Yes, it sucks at times, but we must keep going. And what better way to lift our spirits than with laughter. Let ourselves laugh, lighten up. Sounds easy to say, but trust me, it is horribly tough to do. I try to laugh, I really do, but there are times I can't bring myself to do it. I don't know if there is something inside me that just doesn't want to, or is my brain that preoccupied with pain and hurt, that it just doesn't know how to laugh anymore? Who knows and only time will help me heal, truly, inside. But in the meantime, can laughter help lessen my pain, make me feel better?
Not long ago I read that holding on to anger, resentment and hurt, only gives you tense muscles and a headache, makes the pain worse. Forgiveness, however, gives you back laughter and the lightness in your life. I wrote a few days ago that forgiveness is one of the greatest feelings we can have, it makes us stronger, better people; I still stand by that. There is really no reason to stay angry, nothing is gained from it. Anger only hurts us, no one else; spite does the same thing. I'll always believed that hope will always win over experience, that love is stronger than pain and that laughter is the only cure for grief. I am really trying to follow this, but it is so hard. It is so hard to write this tonight, as I sit here with a smile on my face, and then have to go to bed alone, not knowing if my wife is OK. But that is reality and I need to learn to make the best of it. Until I get an answer, I need to learn to deal with the pain and the reality of things. Laughter will help me and laughter, tonight, is what inspired me to write this; again, with a smile on my face! There are always things in life that make us smile, people, TV, nature, etc... and we need to appreciate them for what they do for us. Laughter is not something we share with a lot of people or a lot of things, it is a special bond we find with someone we love, our families, our favorite TV show, our pets. Laughter keeps us alive, it keeps us young and most of all it keeps us sane. I still love life in spite of all that stains it, all the evilness, all the hurt it has caused me; I love friendship, jokes and most of all, laughter.
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